Hello, welcome.

I am Clare Foale (she/her) living on Garigal Country on Sydney’s Northern Beaches.

I am Autistic and have ADHD. Being identified as an AuDHDer at 42 years old has helped me understand a lot about myself and my life. It has been a journey of relief and grief. The unmasking is ever evolving.

As so many do, I came to discover my Neurodivergence through the journey to identify my kids’ neurotypes.

This website has had so many iterations over the years. I’ve come to know and accept that there is no elevator pitch to what I do or who I am; it is forever changing and evolving … sometimes there are offerings, sometimes stories, sometimes just a lot of rest and feeling like I am the goop between caterpillar and butterfly. I’ve come to know that this is not because I am broken or wrong, but because I am alive. I find that deeply permission-giving and equally frustrating.

Which is to say, I am in a season of a lot of tending to our family and myself. This looks like homeschooling one of our kids, learning a lot about PDA, putting my Uni studies on hold (I am 2 subjects in to my Masters of Counselling), reading, pondering, being in conversation with Neurokin, watching a lot of Percy Jackson and completely geeking out on Greek mythology.

Each week I have conversations with others who are navigating same-but-different waters. I am dusting off the cobwebs of this space to have a place to pop some of my thoughts (that feels delightful to me) and to share some resources which maybe others will find helpful too. It’s a bit of a virtual version of my home: colourful, messy, bits go together which don’t really make sense but somehow do, the kids’ art, my art, op shop finds, photos, old flowers which are dusty, a pile of washing which is always waiting to be folded, piles of books.

You’re very welcome if this feels like what you need - I’ll make you a cuppa x